Dear Stepmom, Jesus Understands

Nothing in my life has taught me more about becoming Christlike, than being a stepmom. After more than thirty-two years in this role I have often felt:

  • Betrayed…as Jesus was.
  • Rejected…as Jesus was.
  • Abandoned…as Jesus was.
  • Ridiculed…as Jesus was.
  • Forgotten…as Jesus was.
  • Unappreciated…as Jesus was.
  • Unloved…as Jesus was.

Jesus understands.

He identifies with what it feels like to give absolutely everything for people who could care less. He fully grasps how excruciating it is to sacrifice for those who discard, snub, and dislike you. He knows what it means to suffer and sacrifice for those who don’t cherish it.

And what does He tell us in those circumstances? Do it anyway.

I’ve lost count of the times during my stepparent journey that He has whispered into my soul, “Do it for me, Laura. I’ll give you the strength, guidance and grace to love as I love.

The question is: Are you willing? Even if it means you’ll get nothing in return. Do it because you love me, Your Heavenly Daddy. Even if you see no results, and no one else notices, I see you. I know what it costs to love sacrificially. And I’m working in ways you know nothing about.

Laura, do you trust me enough to love those who don’t deserve it? Do you love me enough to be my hands, feet, heart and lips?”

The Holy Spirit always goes for the jugular. He always shines a light on the dark, deep root of the issue.

It’s fear that keeps me from loving like Christ. My life-long enemy—fear.
It’s true, I may get hurt if I love like Christ. But He’s there to hold me, comfort me, and encourage me.

And in the end I have peace because following His wisdom and guidance always brings contentment. I didn’t say happiness. I didn’t say comfort. I didn’t say ease. I said peace. And there is a BIG difference.

“A sacrifice to be real must cost, must hurt, and must empty ourselves. Give yourself fully to God. He will use you to accomplish great things on the condition that you believe much more in his love than in your weakness.” ― Mother Teresa

A third time he asked him, “Simon son of John, do you love me?” Peter was hurt that Jesus asked the question a third time. He said, “Lord, you know everything. You know that I love you.” Jesus said, “Then feed my sheep.”

(John 21:17, NLT)

This article is an excerpt from Laura’s 30 day devotional, Seeking a Silent Night designed for  Stepfamilies during the holidays.  Laura is an international author and speaker who speaks on various subjects. Her web site is www.TheSmartStepmom.com